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News and media stigmatize kinky people too often - Where are the appropriate and understanding views?

This blog article deals mostly with finnish culture and situation of finnish media and reporting regarding kinky subjects. But even if we talk about Finland only or the whole world I find reporting about kinky subjects mostly same. They are juicy topics for laughing or horror. But we lack appropriate reporting about kinky people, fetishism and BDSM. Let's start with cold facts While media mostly report kinky things in a negative way or related to negative contexts the readers of papers, followers of media and all of the "vanilla" citizens create their images regarding all the people who are related to any kinky things. There is a risk that all kinky individuals are kept similar and mostly in a negative way. I can't accept that. This is why I try to do my part by telling things from my point of view. From my point of view "kinky" as a subject is still kept too much as a taboo. While it is a taboo it is a delicious subject for only those who desire s

Experience: Fetishism in Instagram

I decided to join Instagram in the spring 2019 because I wished to make connections and have like-minded friends. I had had my doubts about joining for a long time as I had thought that Instagram would be a channel for just fishing for likes for the pictures and making money with famous accounts. I finally joined after I was couraged by my partner and when some people at the German Fetish Ball 2019 I met mentioned that they were only registered to the Instagram and were not to be found from other channels. Here I write about my experience on the Instagram so far from the fetish view. At first it felt really great to be finally in Instagram. I created my profile and shared some of my pictures from the years back. I shared my pictures as I am - Showing different styles of latex and other alternative clothes and wild ideas of "evolving" via dressing up. I wished to show my ideas to others to find like-minded friends and maybe even to achieve new real life friends around.

Fetishism isn't an ideology itself - Keep ideologies apart from fetish events

I have noticed during past years that in the fetish related events and pictures are often involved some kind of symbols which usually are related to some kind of ideologies. Mostly these ideologies are kept as vice, minor, liberal or even evil. I question why these symbols are quite often and openly related and shown within the fetish context. Because fetishism itself isn't an ideology. It's a feature of an individual. And individuals have their own ideologies. Example one : I was taking part on a fetish event in Finland few years ago where one organizing part decided to use Nazi-related decorations around the place. It could have been just a minor thing if this symbolism would have been carried around by some individuals. But when the organizing part used these symbols and decos around widely it didn't seem to be just about decorating a fetish event. It created an atmosphere where the symbol and ideology were declared by the organizer. It made a pressurizing feeling th

Are kinky people always craving for sex or sex partners only?

I could easily guess that most of the people think that kinky people are dominated by their sexuality and therefore driven by their sexual needs. Of course I can't talk on behalf of all the kinksters because all of the people are individuals and have their own needs and experiences. But here's once again one point of view to the mindscape that one fetishist can have. Maybe some others too. First of all I have understood that fetishism is regarded as a caste of things that are kept kinky. It means that fetishists are regarded as kinksters like people who like BDSM. But note that these castes of kinky are different. Nevertheless they all have one thing similar which is that their identity, sexuality or sex life involves sides which are commonly kept rare or something that differs from the traditional way to express oneself or have sex. The normal way is said to be "vanilla" among kinky people. It means that vanilla people live their sexuality without any spices or e