Your child may be a fetishist

Most of us don't care about something until it concerns our own life. Most of us don't even want to try and understand diversity until we crave for understanding and approval ourselves. So what would you do if you would find out that you are a fetishist yourself? How about if your child shows signs that he / she would react to something like a fetishist? What would you do if your child would be unsure about him- / herself and wouldn't know what to do?

 

I intentionally say your child "may be" a fetishist, not "may become". Fetish doesn't always just come from somewhere or be a nice idea. It may be that someone grows up with a fetish that turns out sooner or later. Very often the one with a possible fetish doesn't know about his / her fetish even him- / herself. The fetish side may be indirect or sleeping side that the one doesn't recognize in a long time. Maybe it starts to awaken with random triggers in everyday life. Maybe it comes clear after some self-examination or when the one combines his / her feelings as a reaction with the possible fetish.

 

When the fetishism is a taboo or a subject that haven't been discussed deeply among experts how do you deal with your child who could be a fetishist? How do you understand him / her, how do you go through his / her problems and uncertainity and who do you consult if you need professional support?

 

In my opinion we need fetishism, as well as other kinky subjects, to be discussed openly on different forums. As we live in quite free country like Finland (or maybe your country) where everyone should have a right to be him- / herself and have quite free right to express him- / herself as he / she wants we shouldn't have a situation where something that is not illegal or not a disease would be a subject that can't be discussed or dealt with.

I wish kinky people to be taken on agendas on different actors who get to know the subject and find out what kinky people need and what kind of grievances and prejudices there are that should be eliminated.

 

I remind everyone that fetishism or other kinky things aren't subjects which deserves to be mocked, laughed at, horrified or ignored. Like other sexual minorities kinky people can of course be a subject of good-natured humor but the subject is sensitive to those who experience it as a big part of their life and identity. Like with other sexual minorities I advice to handle kinky subjects carefully and in a polite way whether your opinions are positive or negative.

Remember that maybe even you will confront a situation where your close relative or friend will turn out to be a fetishist or otherwise kinky. It may be even your child.