Senshi's Shelter

 I have been thinking through one of the most difficult questions regarding men in a modern world. This question is about commonly accepted features of men and the situation of those men who doesn't go with those features. I'm talking about conservative masculinity versus liberal femininity. We haven't got far from the life where men had to be tough by all means. They had to do the hard work. They had to carry their burden and maybe even their families burdens too. They had to defend their land and rights. They had to hunt. They had to be powerful. But times have changed. We live in a liberal democratic western culture where the principle is that every individual should be allowed to be themselves, express themselves as they wish and have a right to make decision regarding their gender and other things regarding their identity. We have gone far towards the better and happier world. But there is still much to do. One really important thing is to cherish the decided goals...

While we are making a world in the modern western culture where we all should be able to be ourselves, express ourselves as we wish and gain happiness through it I still see very much of things which crumble this picture of a free world and happiness of everyone. One thing that is long way from finising is accepting diversity. One specific thing is feminine men. In my opinion feminine men are more sensitive, delicate, empathic, social, talkative and reacting than the role models of men from the history. They may also overreact easier and be more dramatic. They may show more emotions and cry sometimes. They may wish more attention regarding themselves. Feminine men may take more care about their looks than masculine men. These and other possible feminine attributes may be just small factors but they can also be very dominant. While men can have some amount of feminine attributes which are regarded normal and unnoticed some of feminine features, in some amount and at certain men, may ...

Few months ago I read a book named "Korsetti" by Annamari Marttinen (in english "Corset)". It's a book telling a fictional, but very credible, story about a man who grows with a strong need to be a transvestite. Now that I saw an article about this book in a newspaper I remembered it again. It would be a shame not to write about the book to here too! The book starts telling the story about a young man who gets into situation where he tries on some female clothing. This situation isn't very private or deep as the character experiences it with his girlfriend. The situation is more of a joke than something serious. The girlfriend keeps the whole situation laughable but at the same time the main character starts to feel something different. Something more deep and serious. Actually if we think about it, throughout the history it has been kept very much as a joke if a man dresses into clothes which are made for the women in the first place. Still we can see t...

When I look at the fetish scene I always end up asking myself these quest ions: Are only men true fetishists who crave fetishes and need to deal with them constantly? And are girls only allowed to have a status of worshipped fetish mo del? I ask these because wh en people browse the magic world of Internet or take part to fetish occasions they always see the similar thing: Women dressed in latex having fantastic life in the spotlights and men at the crowd following them. I have giv en this a thought so often that I decided to chew over it a bit. Popular fetish models are always women. Is it a mandatory? First of all I believe that fetishism isn 't a fe ature concerning only men. Of course there are women who are also interested about fetishes. But the thing I can't com pare is that how deep is the feeling and the crave for fetishes between men or women. I believe that men need fetishes more. Usually men think sex more often t han women which can conne ct to need...