I have a strong opinion that kinky is a caste of sexual minority. Whether kinky should be added among other sexual minorities or not will be always a sensitive subject. There are many perspectives how kinky is not the same thing as being a person from under the rainbow. First of all many people say that being kinky is about having sex in a certain way. It's commonly not considered among sexual minorities because traditional sexual minorities are about loving other people who are not of opposite gender. So in the rainbow case it's about loving other human being in not the traditional man-woman -way. Kinky people are often heterosexuals with different type of kinks so it's commonly considered as normal sexual realtionship with some spices in a bedroom.
But this mental image is something I want to shoot down. Yes, I agree that in the most of the kinky relationships there is a man and a woman. But the way of them loving each other is not always traditional. There are relationships with strong presence of dominance and submission that may be the whole base of the relationship. There are relationships in which people live completely different life inside their homes involving certain types of dressing, behaviour, tasks or objects. And even if the love itself would be traditional the kinky side may be way much bigger thing in the relationship than just something funny between the sheets. BDSM or fetishes can be a part of identity making the subject very important to one who needs them in his / her life. Kinky things may be needed daily to fulfill desires and needs. Kinky side can define a big part of the relationship and even make it impossible to create a relationship with one who doesn't understand or want to deal with others needs.
If the kinky relationship differs this much from the one that is kept as a normal and traditional relationship I declare being kinky is being in a sexual minority.
This doesn't automatically mean that kinky should be added to rainbow colors.
The term sexual minority sounds it should involve minorities that have something to do with sexuality. Being kinky is of course about sexuality. When talking about sexual minority we are not talking straightly about gender minorities or minorities with interest on other genders which are not that traditional opposite one.
If we still disagree about this I have few questions already. Transvestites are welcome under the rainbow as they want to express their masculinity or femininity that is important part of their identity. This doesn't change their gender and they might still be straight on their sexuality. And what if we have a fetishistic transvestite? Is he / she welcome under sexual minorities anymore if his / her transvestism is a sexual thing, a kinky side?
Then the other question. Asexuals are nowadays accepted among the sexual minorities and they are accepted under the rainbow too (at least in Finland). If asexuals are accepted do we talk about gender issues anymore? Then why kinky people can't be under acceptance?
To conclude my speculation I still want to investigate this subject before demanding kinky among the rainbow categories straightaway. It might be easier to keep these things a bit separate as there are too much misunderstanding and intolerance between these worlds. But I still strongly demand that kinky people should be taken seriously and under protection of some actors. Being kinky is not about being a joke. Being kinky can be something that has born during the childhood years. It may be a part of identity and it may be a big and important thing in one's life that is needed plenty and repeatedly.
At least other sexual minorities, like all the people, should take kinky people seriously and show some support and pay respect to them as equal human beings. If people want tolerance but aren't willing to give it themselves what is the point?
Being kinky is about being in sexual minority until kinky is considered totally normal and traditional way to practice relationship. Is it nowadays? There you see, I thought so.
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| Kinky people may not be an option under rainbow-colored sexual minorities. Despite that being kinky is being in a sexual minority. |
But this mental image is something I want to shoot down. Yes, I agree that in the most of the kinky relationships there is a man and a woman. But the way of them loving each other is not always traditional. There are relationships with strong presence of dominance and submission that may be the whole base of the relationship. There are relationships in which people live completely different life inside their homes involving certain types of dressing, behaviour, tasks or objects. And even if the love itself would be traditional the kinky side may be way much bigger thing in the relationship than just something funny between the sheets. BDSM or fetishes can be a part of identity making the subject very important to one who needs them in his / her life. Kinky things may be needed daily to fulfill desires and needs. Kinky side can define a big part of the relationship and even make it impossible to create a relationship with one who doesn't understand or want to deal with others needs.
If the kinky relationship differs this much from the one that is kept as a normal and traditional relationship I declare being kinky is being in a sexual minority.
This doesn't automatically mean that kinky should be added to rainbow colors.
The term sexual minority sounds it should involve minorities that have something to do with sexuality. Being kinky is of course about sexuality. When talking about sexual minority we are not talking straightly about gender minorities or minorities with interest on other genders which are not that traditional opposite one.
If we still disagree about this I have few questions already. Transvestites are welcome under the rainbow as they want to express their masculinity or femininity that is important part of their identity. This doesn't change their gender and they might still be straight on their sexuality. And what if we have a fetishistic transvestite? Is he / she welcome under sexual minorities anymore if his / her transvestism is a sexual thing, a kinky side?
Then the other question. Asexuals are nowadays accepted among the sexual minorities and they are accepted under the rainbow too (at least in Finland). If asexuals are accepted do we talk about gender issues anymore? Then why kinky people can't be under acceptance?
To conclude my speculation I still want to investigate this subject before demanding kinky among the rainbow categories straightaway. It might be easier to keep these things a bit separate as there are too much misunderstanding and intolerance between these worlds. But I still strongly demand that kinky people should be taken seriously and under protection of some actors. Being kinky is not about being a joke. Being kinky can be something that has born during the childhood years. It may be a part of identity and it may be a big and important thing in one's life that is needed plenty and repeatedly.
At least other sexual minorities, like all the people, should take kinky people seriously and show some support and pay respect to them as equal human beings. If people want tolerance but aren't willing to give it themselves what is the point?
Being kinky is about being in sexual minority until kinky is considered totally normal and traditional way to practice relationship. Is it nowadays? There you see, I thought so.
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